Been cheated on

I've Been Cheated On and Need to Recover
December 13, 2014

"I've been cheated on, and need help recovering ASAP."   Infidelity, adultery ... cheating on one another has come up so many times among my clients that I've created a complete process to take people through step-by-step ... so they can move forward with their lives as quickly as possible, and ultimately find the true love and happiness they deserve.

Coming to terms with infidelity, understanding why it happened, and taking the necessary steps to recover and move forward ... none of it is easy - especially when the emotional pain is fresh, and the wounds are so deep.   It hurts ... it is sickening to think that the person you've loved so much could do this to you.   However, there is hope ... because you can fully recover and find happiness again, by going through a time-proven process which will definitely put the pain, and the heartache into your rear-view mirror.

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The first step in the recovery process is knowing with certainty that you have, in fact, been the victim of infidelity.  That may sound dumb - but I've worked with hundreds of people who basically have jumped to a conclusion without having anything substantial to prove that they were cheated on.  There are actually different forms of proof - each of which is fairly long and detailed to go through, but briefly the types of proof can be eyewitness, circumstantial, and/or solid proof.  Whatever proof you have, it should ideally be convincing or irrefutable.  Sometimes affairs are "mental", and not physical - do those types of affairs really count?  That really depends on YOU.  Again, there is a lot to consider when it comes to KNOWING whether you really have been the victim of an infidelity ... keep reading to find out how to know more.

The second step in a recovery from infidelity process involves you (the victim) understanding WHY this infidelity occurred.  Infidelity never happens in a vacuum - there are always multiple reasons for it ... and you really have to go through a personalized recovery process to understand each of the reasons, otherwise you may very well find yourself in a similar situation again in the future.  There are CONTRIBUTING FACTORS which could include absence of quality sex, choosing the wrong partner, failure to avoid risky situations and scenarios.  There are also PARTNER ISSUES that alone or in concert can produce an infidelity - such as midlife crisis, a sexual addiction, a sense of entitlement, etc.  AND - there can be yet additional CAUSES OF AFFAIRS ... such as situational affairs, exploratory affairs, and deliberate affairs.  Each of these contributing factors, partner issues, and causes of affairs is extremely complicated ... I'm really just introducing the ideas about them to you here.  They are all explained at length in the e-book.

The third step in an infidelity recover process involves ACCEPTANCE on the part of the victim of ten different "truths" that I've discovered are necessary in order to move yourself forward.  Probably the most important such truth to always keep in mind is KNOW THAT BETTER DAYS ARE AHEAD OF YOU.  No - it won't seem like it right now, nor even for a while ... but I guarantee you that things are getting better for you each and every day.  Better days are ahead of you - and knowing that with absolute certainty is comforting.  Another "truth" that you should always keep in mind is - YOU CANNOT CHANGE SOMEONE ELSE'S FEELINGS ... and that means no matter how hard you may want your husband or wife or boyfriend or girlfriend to come to their senses, and come back to you, it just cannot happen ... because you are only in charge of yourself.  This truth is often hard to keep in mind - especially if you've been with someone for many, many years ... you think you know that person, and maybe you did ... but everything has changed now, and the sooner you ACCEPT this new reality, the sooner you will be able to move forward with your life.  Two of the ten TRUTHS you must accept and recognize have only been introduced here - there are actually eight more such truths which you should be aware of, too.  All of these truths plus much more detail on everything can be found in my book, which you can learn about at the end of this article.

The final step in recovering from infidelity involves taking a number of deliberate ACTIONS which together will result in a best possible outcome for you.  Some of these actions are appropriate for married couples who are divorcing, while others apply to both married couples and also to boyfriend/girlfriend couples who have had an infidelity take place.  The first of two such actions I will tell you about is extremely important - HOPE FOR THE BEST, PREPARE FOR THE WORST.  This means keep yourself as optimistic as possible, but always anticipate worst-case and plan for it accordingly.  You never want to be caught off-guard by your ex ... who has already deeply wronged you once.  Remember the old saying, "Fool me once, shame on you … fool me twice, shame on me."?  Well, this ACTION is a reminder to you not to get fooled a second time!  No matter what "it" is, always be ready for the unexpected, and have a mental plan in place to deal with it before it happens.  I realize what I'm telling you is very broad - but it is true, and it is so important!  The second ACTION to take immediately is related - FOCUS ON MAKING ONE DECISION AT A TIME.  That may sound overly simple, but many people who have been the victim of infidelity simply freeze ... like a deer in the headlights.  The best thing you can do is make a list of decisions you need to make, write them down, and start executing them one by one ... maybe one each week, or every two weeks ... so that everything that needs to get done DOES GET DONE.

Happiness is on the horizon - it is one hundred percent do-able and possible ... even though today you might feel otherwise.  You can and will love someone again.  You can and will enjoy your life, and appreciate who you are with - but you do need to ideally first go through the entire recovery process that I take you through in my e-book entitled, "How to Successfully Recover from Having Been Cheated On" ... which you can purchase via this website, www.been-cheated-on.com.  If you go through my entire recommended personal recovery process, you are far more likely to be able to avoid any potential mistakes, behaviors, and/or partners that got you into your situation today.  Learn from the past, deal with the present, and enhance your future - that's what my personalized infidelity recovery process is all about.
If you are ready to get started with your personalized recovery from this mess of having been cheated on ... and put yourself back onto the road toward happiness, then please CLICK HERE to be redirected to our home page where you can order the e-book entitled, "How to Successfully Recover from Having Been Cheated On" which comes with a 7-day money back guarantee.
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